It’s hardly novel to reflect on gratitude this time of year. Yet, like the changing of the seasons and so many of our traditions, there’s value in turning our attention to something that’s expected. And we can always find new lessons.
As parents, it can feel like we’re constantly pushing — our kids to do a certain task or act a specific way, our schedules to accommodate one more thing, ourselves to be less distracted and more present with our loved ones.
At times, it seems like we’re almost there, that if we cut an obligation out of the mix or get more efficient at a task, that we’ll hit that sweet spot of getting everything done and having solid time together as a family. Other days, it feels like an impossible goal.
And that may be true. Perhaps there’s no scheduling magic, no to-do list fine-tuning, no lifestyle approach that can counter the everyday juggle of raising kids.
And maybe that’s okay. What if, instead of trying to continually tweak our day-to-day life, we shifted our perception of it? What if we starting thinking thankfully — for the things that are great, for sure, but also for the things that are incredibly challenging?
Looking at the positive isn’t a new concept, either. But simple, small changes can have a huge effect on how we move through our day.
Let’s be real: Our kids are going to throw tantrums, ask for an eighth story at bedtime and refuse to wear shoes on the days we’re running late. We can’t avoid this. But we can try to see the bright spots — the cuddles that come after the tears, the opportunity to spend time together, the fact that at least they’re wearing pants.
And we can take a minute to acknowledge the simple pleasures and beautiful moments when they happen. The little hand in yours. The giggles coming from the living room. The rosy cheeks after playing outside. The teaching conversation in the car.
What’s more, when we act with gratitude, it impacts our kids. They get a better version of us. And they learn how to bring a little appreciation to their own stressors and challenges. Who knows, maybe they’ll even thank us for it one day.